What an insightful book. A friend recently handed me this book because of a comment I had made to her about not finding a book about sibling loss when I had needed it- almost 15 years ago after the deaths of both of my sisters to breast cancer. The author shares her journey of grief after the loss of her adult brother. She also includes quotes from many other sibling survivors, most with the same feelings that I had gone through: struggling to believe that my grief was equally as deep as my brothers-in-law, as my nieces and nephews, and as my parents. Somehow there was much more information for those grievers, which made me believe that I was just "supposed to get over it" because we had our own families now, because their spouses would feel the effect of the deaths more profoundly, because their kids no longer had their moms. And I bought into that, trying my best to be supportive and loving for them. But I at some point fell into a deep hole, one that took time to crawl out of.
T. J. Wray walks us through the stages of grief in a very personal way directed to us siblings. I will pass this book on to others, hopefully in time to assist them when they need it most.
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